100 Conversation Starters for Couples

It’s no secret that conversation and communication is key for couples – no matter what the stage in your relationship. When you first start dating, it seems like you learn everything about your partner really quickly. Before you know it, you’ve forgotten many of the things you first learned! These 100 conversation starters for couples are designed to help you two learn a bit more about one another. You might even be surprised by some of your partner’s answers! Happy chatting!!

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Love and Relationships:

  1. What is your love language?
  2. Describe your idea of a perfect date.
  3. What three words would you use to describe me?
  4. Are you more of a listener or a talker?
  5. Do you believe in love at first sight?
  6. What do you remember about the first time that we met?
  7. What is one area I can improve in to help our relationship?
  8. Are you more likely to avoid conflict or engage in it?
  9. What is your favorite way to show affection?
  10. What is your favorite way to receive affection?
  11. How can I be a better communicator?
  12. What do you see as your biggest strength/weakness in our relationship?
  13. What have you learned from past relationships?
  14. How would you keep our love alive in marriage?
  15. What about marriage makes you excited?
  16. What are your fears about marriage?
  17. Do you believe love can pull through anything?
  18. How do you handle an argument/disagreement?
  19. What is one way I can let you know I cherish you?
  20. Name one thing that I do that makes you laugh.
  21. What can we do to ensure we stay connected emotionally/physically?
  22. What is your favorite characteristic about me?
  23. Name three things you find attractive about me.
  24. How often should we have a date night?
  25. What is your favorite memory of our relationship so far?
100 conversation starters for couples

Fun and Random Conversation Starters for Couples:

  1. What fuels and energizes you?
  2. What is your biggest pet peeve?
  3. Where do you want to travel to in your lifetime?
  4. If you could have any animal as a pet what would it be?
  5. What are your favorite hobbies?
  6. Who has had the biggest impact in your life?
  7. What is your worst habit?
  8. What is your guilty pleasure?
  9. If you could have one wish what would it be?
  10. What are your fears?
  11. What is the best gift you have received?
  12. If you could only eat one food the rest of your life, what would it be?
  13. What is your ideal vacation or weekend plans?
  14. What food best describes your personality?
  15. Are you more of an introvert or extrovert?
  16. What is the craziest thing you want to try someday?
  17. What are your five most important values?
  18. Would you rather go out for a night on the town or stay at home?
  19. What motivates you?
  20. What are you self conscious about?
  21. Name three topics you enjoy talking about.
  22. If you had $100,000 to give to any cause, what would it be?
  23. What would be your dream job?
  24. What moments/events have shaped you into who you are?
  25. List five things that are on your bucket list.
100 conversation starters for couples

Memories and Growing Up:

  1. What are some of your earliest memories from your childhood?
  2. How did your parents discipline you?
  3. What was your childhood like?
  4. What is the most embarrassing phase you went through?
  5. Who was your first crush, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc.?
  6. What is the oddest item you have kept from your childhood/teenage years?
  7. Name your favorite memory from high school.
  8. Did you play any sports, musical instruments, etc.?
  9. What was your favorite TV show growing up?
  10. Who was your favorite teacher and why?
  11. Name your top three favorite songs from high school.
  12. What family traditions did you have growing up?
  13. What was your most fond family vacation?
  14. Share an embarrassing moment you remember from your childhood.
  15. What was your first job?
  16. Who was your best friend? Tell me about that person.
  17. What caused you to get into the most trouble as a kid?
  18. What was one of your favorite toys growing up?
  19. Did you eat dinner at the table with your family?
  20. What was your favorite subject in school?
  21. Did you ever go to any summer camps?
  22. As a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
  23. What did you and your friends do for fun in middle school?
  24. Have you broken any bones or had any surgeries?
  25. What is your happiest childhood memory?
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Plans and the Future:

  1. Do you want kids, if so, how many?
  2. How should we discipline our kids?
  3. Describe your parenting style.
  4. What is something you would want to teach our children?
  5. What are you thoughts on adoption, fostering, etc.?
  6. Do you want to have any pets?
  7. How should we divide chores?
  8. What do you think are the roles of husbands and wives?
  9. How do you feel about debt, saving, spending, etc.?
  10. Do you want a shared bank account or separate?
  11. Do you like to follow a budget?
  12. How will we take care of big financial decisions?
  13. Where do you want to live or end up?
  14. Describe your vision of your dream home.
  15. How often would you like to travel?
  16. What traditions would you like to keep or start in our family?
  17. How do you want to handle split holidays between families?
  18. What are your career aspirations and goals?
  19. What is your idea of our 5-10 year plan?
  20. How often do you like to spend time with friends, family, alone, etc.?
  21. Would you follow the advice of your family or your spouse?
  22. What are things that you will not compromise on when it comes to our future?
  23. Would you be open to go to counseling if we felt that we needed it?
  24. What is the next thing you want to accomplish in life?
  25. If you could learn the answer to one question about the future, what would it be?
100 conversation starters for couples

Now that you’ve got a solid list of 100 conversations starters for couples, comment below to let me know if I forgot anything!! Searching for more tips, tricks, or inspiration? BINGE THE BLOG for the latest. And you know where to find me in the meantime (@alyssaashley_photography).



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